|Do I have to give up chocolate?|
One of the great things about being in the Episcopal Church is we recognize the Holy Spirit works differently for different people, so we don't make many hard and fast rules. One of the drawbacks of being in the Episcopal Church is because of that, it can sometimes feel like you never get a straight answer.
When I started attending many years ago, I drove a friend of mine crazy by asking a lot of questions about standing, kneeling, bowing, and crossing oneself. A lot of people did it at the same times, but some people did it at different times, and some didn't do it at all. The answer I got was not, "You do this then, and this at that time..." Instead, I got, "Well, some people do that here because... and some people like to... but some people don't do it at all." I love how we always hear the reasoning behind why we do things instead of just being told to do something. Welcome to the squishy world of being an Anglican!
At the beginning of the Ash Wednesday service this week you will hear the priest say the words, "I invite you, therefore, in the name of the Church, to the observance of a holy Lent..." (Book of Common Prayer, p. 265). However you decide to observe Lent, you are invited... not required.
The Church has changed over the centuries, and Lent is no longer treated as a time of public penance. The general tone of Lent is, however, one of quiet and reflection. You'll notice the organ at church is more muted, flowers disappear or are toned down, the alleluias are not spoken or sung (Boy, are you going to love them when they reappear at Easter!), there are often more pauses in worship for contemplation, and of course, the color of the season is purple. Purple is a royal color: Lent is actually our preparation for Easter — a King is on his way!
The three general areas typically focused on during Lent are:
- Acts of charity, and;
|Fish sticks? Really?!|
Acts of charity can also take many forms, the classic being giving money to the poor — that was the original idea of Fish Friday. Notice how that knocked out two disciplines at once: self-denial and charity; add in a prayer before your fish sticks and Yatzee! You've done all three! The broad meaning of charity is love. Lent can be a time for finding a new, even challenging way to express love. Maybe you will challenge yourself to express love by being a better listener or caring for the earth by recycling. Perhaps your Lenten discipline will be to spend this time working on forgiving (Everyone has someone they need to forgive... maybe you even need to forgive yourself for something in your past!) Perhaps you will focus on letting others in front of you on the freeway or getting out of the way of someone in an obvious hurry. Maybe you will donate time in the service of the homeless. Maybe you will stop being so busy and sit down and read to a child.
Finally, prayer: It could be as simple as saying grace before meals — you can use traditional ones found in the Book of Common Prayer, p. 835 or be as free-form as everyone going around the table and talking about a blessing in their day. Maybe you want to add a time for Morning Prayer or meditation. Many of us don't necessarily need to increase our prayers as much as deepen our prayer lives. One way to do this is to shake up how you pray and try something different. There are as many ways to pray as there are individuals. You can use the Book of Common Prayer to pray (pp. 75–135), try praying while you walk outside, take a shot at the Anglican rosary (link), engage in contemplative prayer where you listen instead of talk, or attend a retreat at Church for new ideas; you can even pray by drawing and coloring! (link)
Families can observe Lent with their children. Take them to the Ash Wednesday liturgy and the services during Holy Week, but talk to them ahead of time about them. Do things as a family to include prayer and charity. Kids can learn self-denial from letting their brother or sister choose the TV program for the night. Bottom line: Your kids will learn what they see you doing.
For more thoughts on Lenten observances from people like the Presiding Bishop (who arguably has far more priest-cred than I), check out http://episcopaldigitalnetwork.com/ens/tag/lent-2013/
|Lighten up! Watch Chocolat!|
Note: My thanks to W. & R. for giving me the idea for this post!